What do you do when you don’t know what yo do? You do what you know to do.
I know that sounds like a terrible thing to advise. I’ve been there. I’ve been so frustrated with mental health issues, with just life in general that I’ve felt overwhelmed and ready to scream and ready to just sit in the mud and crty. I’ve been there lots in my life.
Cause, let’s face it. Mine is never going to be an easy row to hoe. My row is always the one with rocks and lots of twisted tree roots. My row is always going to be the one no one else wants to hoe.
This I know. I have been on this planet for quite a bit and as many times as I’ve wanted to quit, I never have and I’m
still here. I get through it all. The fun stuff, the tough stuff and the seemingly impossible.
Frankly, this is my super power. I am a whiz at handling the biggest, hardest situations. When my dad was dying my sister and are were Wonder Women. My dad would throw tantrums and lie to doctors and nurses and my sister and I handled it. There were points where it felt never ending, but we kept at it.
Last week I just got tired of this being my super power. So, so often I’ve wondered why can’t the good things just fall in my lap, like it seems to for other people. I know, it doesn’t really. It just looks like that.
But still, WHY
. Why can’t I just be perfectly content to do some quiet job, where I just get told what to do and I get a paycheck every two weeks? Or just a paycheck? A regular paycheck sounds good. Sometimes it sounds really, really good.
I know. This has what’s been set in front of me. I know, this is what I was born to do. I come from a family of healers and it’s almost like I didn’t have a choice. We are doctors and nurses and I’m not a fan of body fluids, so I heal body/mind/spirit from the outside. It makes perfect sense to me why I’m here, I just don’t always like it.
I realize how lucky I am. I have a purpose. I feel inspired by my work. I’m never just waiting for five o’clock. Most days I’m excited to get up and get to it. I’m excited about what I’m doing and the direction I’m moving A Yogi Kitchen.
Last week I got sick and tired. There’s been so much going on. Grieving. Ended old stuck relationship. Started new relationship. Buying a house. And the millions of tiny things that are affected by all of that. Re-establishing boundaries with my son. Since I’ve been traveling and splitting my time , parenting has shifted. I’ll still split my time, but lots more hands on
parenting since he’ll be at My house now.
So what do you do when everything seems huge and you’re struggling with the stress and in my case, the anxiety and PTSD?
You do what you know to do. I know, it’s frustrating that there’s not some bright and shiny new answer. We all want to take that magic pill.
There’s no magic pill.
What do you know
to do? I know that I need to eat for my brain and for my blood sugar. I have to get out of the idea that I need to eat for my tongue. I definitely want to enjoy my food, but when I’m moving from craving to craving AND my life is feeling overwhelming, I’m probably not listening to my body. When the noise and distractions are big
WHEN i’m feeling connected and clear, body/mind/spirit, I can listen to my cravings When I’m connected, my body is telling me what it needs, and I can listen.
What do I know to do? I listen to my NP, cause she’s awesome. If you don’t have a medical professional that you love and can really talk to, Get One. I can’t tell you how many times I hear clients talk about their medical struggles, cause they’re trying to figure it out alone. People have dedicated hundreds of thousands of dollars and a good portion of their time to healing, whether it’s practicing medicine or some other way. You can not Google your symptoms a
nd figure out what you should do. There are too many factors, too much inexperience. Whether it’s a naturopath, a NP, PA, MD or DO or even your yoga therapist, find someone you can relate to and you feel heard by and use their expensive brain to help you manage your health. Even if you’re a health care professional you can’t do it alone. We all need a health advocate.
That was the best thing I did. Nicole, my NP figured out some stuff for me, and while I’m not someone who ever thought she’d be on estrogen, I am a different woman today. Estrogen has made a world of difference.
I’ve been spending a lot of time in cars, trains and planes. I’m not getting enough movement in. This week, I taught Hips and Hearts in Lawrence, so I prepped by getting on the mat. I’m teaching the second part of the two part series this coming Sunday. So, not only am I getting a bit . more active, I’m, getting on the mat.
For now, those are the things that I know to do that are keeping me a little more grounded
, a little more calm and focused. Oh! And there’s the work I do. The blogging, the posting and check-ins for BreatheTogether at the new community, the BreatheOnline that starts Sunday, prepping for Hips and Hearts and the private clients that I work with. The more I teach and coach, the more I learn and stay grounded in mindfully managing my mental health.
What do you know to do when emotion gets big, stress gets high and the overwhelm threatens?