I like new beginnings. I love how even in mid-life fall feels like new school supplies, planners and sharp pencils. So, it’s not surprising that I love Sunday.
Sunday isn’t the beginning of the week for me. Monday is. Sunday can be busy with work for me. In my twenties I waited tables on Sunday and had Monday and Tuesday off. In my thirties and forties I often cooked all-day on Sundays to prep for my restaurant, a catering gig or my private cooking clients. And I’ve almost always taught at least one yoga class on Sunday.
So, it’s a work day for me, but I still love how fresh and new it feels. More than feeling like a beginning, it feels like the day to plan for a new beginning. I’m a planner, so sometimes that’s way more gratifying than actually beginning fresh.
Every week at the end of my Sunday Slow Flow online class, I encourage my students to just be present with the mental snapshot of who they are mind/body/spirit in the moment and to think about the week ahead. Today, I encourage you to do the same.
Take a few deep breaths. Close your eyes, if that feels comfortable.m or at least soften your gaze and relax your eyes. Gentle move into the future for a few breaths. Think about how you want your week to feel. Don’t worry about the have-tos, shoulds or need-tos. Just think about what you want. How do you want to walk through the week? I like how Danielle LaPorte asks us to think about how we want to feel at the end of the week. There’s a lot of clarity in thinking about it that way.
For example, I have had a few down weeks, where I’ve taken it easy and rested. I’ve been quiet. This week was supposed to be my self-care week off, but I decided that I’d rather do another week of teaching DBT skills and yoga classes instead. I’m lucky that I can be flexible like that.
This week, I’d like to feel super productive and very active. When I think about my week, I envision lots of Pop-up classes, hitting the gym everyday, cooking for our community a few times and doing a bunch of writing for BreatheOnline, the online course coming up in January. When I get motivated, I get very ambitious. I’m also thinking about adding a grief workshop next month, so I’d work on that too. At the end of the week I want to feel alive. I want to feel tired in the best way, successful, accomplished and that I’ve been of service to our community.
How do you want to feel? There is no right or wrong answer. You can completely decide you want a quiet, lazy, restful week without guilt or judgment. It’s absolutely whatever resonates with you.
Next, I encourage you to think of your week and think about potholes. Where are the tough places in your week that might need a little extra care to navigate?
When I have a pothole, like maybe a difficult conversation I want to have with someone or a hard work thing to do, it helps if I make sure I’m well-rested, well-fed and feeling calm BEFORE i walk into the situation.. It may mean that I need to go to bed early, workout more, add an extra yoga session, talk to my therapist. It just depends on the activity that might be difficult and tat mental picture of who I am in the moment. This skill is callee Cope Ahead in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
So, with how you want to feel at the end of the week as a guide post, think about self-care this week, think about the skills you’ll need to utilize and perhaps even think of a word that you can use to remind yourself of your intention.
I find that the weeks that I’m more intentional I am more happy, more calm, more satisfied and am way less judgy with myself.
We’re working on DBT skills in our practice all week and then Asana and Pranayama for Your Brain in two week.s As always, feel free to text, comment or email me with questions, comments, support and community. And check out the website for contact info and schedule!
I hope you have a fantastic, intentional week!